There Have Been

Bad Moments


Book of Februarys
Where have you been, Arthur Friend?
3-20

I have this calendar on my desk at work -- one of those 'tear off a sheet for each day that goes by' things that my brother got for me last Christmas. I brought it to work with me after the holiday and began pulling pages off of it each morning when I arrived at my desk.
 
It was only when I got here today that I realized the date on it still reads February 12th.
 
As far as I can remember, February 12th, 2001 wasn't any sort of special time. I can't really remember anything earth-shattering happening that day, and the only thing I have listed on my planner was a two o'clock meeting that was postponed and eventually canceled.
 
But here, almost a month later, it seems very clear that something happened that day. Something that didn't make it on to my planner, something that I didn't bother to write down anywhere...
 
I should probably take this opportunity to mention the fact that four years ago on the morning of February 12th, I started writing entries for an on-line journal that I decided to name after a certain Mike Keneally song...
 
I think there is a point in your life where you start to feel like there is much more to look back upon than there is to look forward to. It's not a rational thing, not a natural feeling of any kind; it just sorta comes upon you, in much the same way that sleepiness seems to naturally follow a good meal.
 
I miss the fire.
 
I don't know how else to put it. I can't seem to bring myself to the wardance anymore. Let the young men fight, let them taste the fumes and poisons in the air, let them shout their defiance in the face of what sometimes seems like the unyielding gravity of time....
 
It's a horrible way to feel. A listless, dark place where instead of squinting your eyes and trying to make the most of whatever faint light might be around, you decide instead to find a corner to lean against, fall to your haunches and wait for someone to come and rescue you.
 
It's like I have lost my faith in the two words that most inspired me the most over the years:
 
fuck it
 
There are so many things I have wanted that involve some measure of risk, some sense that winning the prize might come at the cost of losing the securities that I have gathered all around me.
 
But I gotta tell you, it used to be that the risk itself was the thrill. Nothing else mattered but the feeling that my own inertia would prevail, for no other reason than the fact that I mattered. I believed deep in my heart that my confidence in my own convictions was pure enough to resonate, creating vibrations that would tear into the very heart of anything that stood in my way and shake it to pieces.
 
But now I look at these fragile, intricate things that I keep close to my heart and I fear the vibrations. I worry about the harmonics. I realize that my control over the physics is theoretical at best, that the variables are all too uncontrolled. Too many times have I read the page where Malcolm refused the guards, pondered over the strange sense of guilt that seemed to characterize Oppenhimer once he realized what his creation meant for the world, what it meant to the future.
 
And suddenly it's not about dissecting the fabric of god anymore.
 
Suddenly it's about building churches out of the strongest rock that I can find, pushing the ceilings so high into the air that the spires scratch at the cloud-white bellies of the watching angels all around. And outside of those churches will be walls, and around those walls will be armies, empires, and ideology that I will use at any cost to protect that which is mine.
 
The calendar on my desk says February 12.
 
A February ago, I stopped writing in the journal. Things at the school had reached an ugly point, and the stresses of the world seemed too much to bear. I took a month and some change to go silent, but eventually found myself back on the horse. And days past. My son was born, I changed jobs, old crisis situations faded away and new ones rose in their place.
 
Then, a February later, I shut it down again. Different reasons, same sound of silence.
 
Just the way it goes, I guess.
 
But here in late March, I find myself pulled back. I need to write. Despite the fact that I have somehow convinced myself that writing down my concerns and fears only seems to make them more real, I still believe that I need this place.
 
Sometimes I just forget.
 

See you next February.


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